Letting go. Sounds like a fairly simple concept. Just let it go. Practice, make it a habit, it’s so simple, life is easier, if you can just let it go.
Maybe I am destined for a more difficult path, not programmed to ‘just let it go’. I seem to hold on for dear life, never forgetting moments which to other’s are insignificant, for some reason they have a deep and lasting impact upon me, imprinting themselves on my brain, and I cannot let go. Not for want of trying I hasten to add. There are many times when it seems as though I have managed it, but alas, nope, there they are, the moments, thoughts, feelings of anger, bitterness etcetera, hidden in a box, tucked away in a corner. I tripped over whilst enjoying a stroll up there and knocked the boxes flying, allowing them all to tumble out, and back into the forefront of my mind.
Frustrated and angry, I want to let go. My head does not have the capacity to deal with all these emotions – especially not the guilt and the shame – shoulds and should nots – I want to scream,”Fuck off, GO, Get out! I forgive, I accept, now just go!” But I think they are scared, they do not wish to leave. They are afraid to be alone out there, wherever it is they would go. “Don’t be afraid” I muse, “There is nothing to be scared of” – but I have a feeling that they don’t quite believe me – I don’t truly believe myself…..
Learning to believe. Believe that I can do this, believe in myself. In order to believe in myself, I must first know myself. Do I know myself? Let’s say that I do. I have confidence in my capabilities, and full awareness of my limitations. I have limits, in the sense that I will only allow myself to put up with so much before I put my foot down. Limitations are not negative in this context. They do not make me a prisoner within my own mind. Not letting go does.
So now, following an epithany, a light has been switched on and I now understand how to let go, how it’s not all personal. The nagging thought’s, the anger, bitterness, upset, and the moments which have all past, are free to leave. I no longer have any use for them. I don’t have to push or struggle. They are happy to go – the fear has diminished. Time moves forward, and old wounds are finally allowed to heal. The dust settles, and is gradually wiped away by the feather duster of life……